While some are lovers inside and outside the bedroom, some are like married roommates: no passion,  no spark, just two people sharing a bed.

The couples who are happy in the bedroom are definitely doing something right, and I’ll let you in on their secrets.

So, here are six bedroom secrets happy couples swear by:

6 Bedroom Secrets Happy Couples Swear By

1. They Make Time for Intimacy

If you and your spouse are not careful, your bedroom will be as dry as the Sahara desert.

Because between work, family commitments, church programs (if you are a church-going Christian), and other social activities, where is the time for romance?

This is where happy couples stand out.

They make time for intimacy.

They understand that you only have time for what you make time for.

So they don’t let all those distractions get in the way.

They prioritize their relationship because they know intimacy is like fuel for the car—it keeps the engine of marriage running smoothly.

I’m not saying you should start setting alarms like, “Ah! 10 p.m.—intimacy time!” (Although sometimes this is necessary. lol)

It’s about being intentional.

Even if your day is packed, find small pockets of time to connect.

Maybe it’s a quick cuddle (read as quickie) in the morning before the kids wake up or staying up late at night to just be together.

In fact, if you have kids, don’t feel guilty about sending them to bed early sometimes.

You and your spouse need time too.

Happy couples make better parents.

So you are not only doing it for yourselves, you are also doing it for them.

Making time for intimacy is not just for “when things are okay.”

As a matter of fact, it’s exactly what you need to fix things when they’re not.

Nigerians would say, “Body no be firewood.” (Meaning we are not machines and our bodies need physical touch). 

Well, neither is marriage.

If you want it to stay warm and alive, you must keep adding to the fire.