2. They Keep Technology Out of the Bedroom
Try to imagine life without technology.
No phones, laptops, tablets, or the internet.
Even though it sounds impossible, there was a time we lived without them.
But now, it’s hard to imagine a world where we don’t have constant access to technology.
In fact, many of us now suffer NOMOPHOBIA (Fear Of Missing Out on Our Phones).
We can’t go a few minutes without checking our social media or responding to emails.
We get impatient when the internet is slow, or our phone battery dies.
But what about the bedroom?
Do we really need technology in there, too?
Some of us even have TVs in our bedrooms.
I do. (Covers eyes in shame)
Happy couples know that phones, laptops, and TVs can ruin intimacy.
When one partner is glued to their phone, scrolling social media or watching videos, it sends a message: “This is more important than us.”
Couples who are happy in the bedroom use that time to talk, cuddle, or be present.
They understand that the bedroom is for rest, connection, and intimacy, not distractions.
I’m not saying you can’t bring your devices into the bedroom with you (some couples don’t), but make sure you use them for the right reasons.
Checking work emails, scrolling through social media, or binge-watching shows can wait until your intimate time with your partner is over.
Use that time to connect and bond with each other.
Talk about your day, share your thoughts and feelings, or simply enjoy the physical closeness of cuddling together.
It’s not easy; you have to be intentional about it, which is why some couples are happy and some are not.
If it were easy, every couple would be happy.
3. They Talk About What They Like
Even though couples seem to look more alike the longer they’re together, they’re still individual people with their likes and dislikes.
And no matter how much you know and love your partner, you cannot read their mind.
That’s why we always emphasize communication because really, no one is a mind reader.
One of the biggest mistakes couples make in the bedroom is assuming their partner knows what they want or like.
Expecting your partner to magically know what you want is a recipe for frustration.
Happy couples don’t shy away from talking about what they like in the bedroom because they know communication is the key to satisfaction.
For example, let’s say your partner assumes you love a certain move, but deep down, you’re like, “Nah. This isn’t it.”
Instead of suffering in silence, happy couples speak up.
They might say things like,
“Babe, I enjoy it when you….. Can we do more of that?”
“I’d love to try something new—what do you think about…..?”
These conversations don’t have to be formal or awkward.
They can happen casually during a cuddle session, walking, watching a movie, or during the act itself.
When couples talk about what they like, they eliminate the guesswork.
They don’t have to wonder if their partner is enjoying themselves or if they are doing something wrong.
Imagine the difference between feeling unsure about whether your efforts are appreciated versus knowing exactly what makes your partner happy.
That confidence and clarity, money cannot buy.
